Recently I walked through a sketchy part of downtown later at night alone. Did I manage it? Absolutely. But would I have appreciated a man’s help? Without question.

Women are more than capable of handling life’s demands, but just because we can doesn’t mean we want to. So many women today are carrying invisible burdens, feeling deprived of the simple joy that comes from receiving male support. We’ve lost something crucial—our sense of union with men.

More and more, women are being shaped to criticize, undermine, and compete with masculinity. This comes with a significant cost. Just yesterday, a female client was expressing how she felt her relationship is over because he has stopped texting every morning after letting her know he needs to get his numbers back up and focus more at work. Many men are losing touch with their natural drive to provide, protect, and make meaningful contributions to the lives of women.

More and more men are actively searching for a woman to support them financially.

Many women today are expecting their male partners to act like estrogen-driven caregivers, showering them with unwavering emotional bonding and submission. This expectation disregards the essence of masculine design—powered by testosterone, a hormone of action, task completion, and purpose. Men are evolutionarily wired for commitment, for hunting, achieving, protecting, and providing.

By dismissing these masculine traits, women may unwittingly attract noncommittal men they endup finding weak–men who avoid commitment, favor open relationships, and shy away from responsibility. If we continue down this path, women will be left carrying the load—financially, emotionally, and spiritually—for men who have forgotten how to commit and protect, or who have simply lost interest in doing so because of the ungracious and critical woman they are committed to.

Men need to provide—it’s in their wiring. A woman’s vulnerability, her ability to openly express her needs in a loving way that is not critical or demanding, activates a man’s instinct to give. And when that happens, a woman is free to relax, to receive. It’s a simple formula created by mother nature, but we’ve made it difficult and complicated it.

Women hold the key to evoking masculinity in men. By respecting and admiring male purpose, by cheering on their goals, we create a version of masculinity that naturally seeks to serve and protect the feminine. A woman feels loved when a man sees her heart, but a man feels loved when a woman sees his purpose.

Estrogen dominance has us craving emotional connection and multitasking; testosterone dominance has men craving something to protect and a mission to fulfill.

Maleness is wired to penetrate the world with action and purpose. Respecting this natural drive means supporting his goals, trusting his abilities, and admiring his achievements.

When we respect and honor maleness, we foster a world where masculinity flourishes—where men step into their roles as protectors and providers, allowing women to fully embrace the support and care we were inherently designed to receive.

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Buckle up. I’m gonna get vulnerable on you. This is my marriage story:

My husband and I hit rock bottom so early on in our marriage.

We married in the spring of 2008, became pregnant with our first son a quick month after our wedding, and then the economy collapsed. And my smart, successful, confident husband came home in the middle of the workday with a suspicious box and an expression on his face that I’ll never forget. 

That day, through no fault of his own, he lost an 11-year job to the financial crisis.

And on that same day, our sweet happy “honeymoon phase” died an abrupt death. 

Instead of focusing on my status as “new wife” and “first-time-mom-to-be”, now I was focusing on my husband’s shitty mood.  And everything he was doing that I didn’t like… and everything he wasn’t doing that I liked. All while my husband focused on securing our financial well-being, and my emotional well-being, all while the due date of our first child grew closer every day. 

But I was too one-sided to see the situation with compassion and empathy for my husband. I was too caught up in my own needs. What I wasn’t getting. How my fairy-tale-based expectations of marriage weren’t being met. In hindsight, such a hollow mindset, yet not an uncommon one by any means.  

As my husband focused more and more on work and became emotionally distant and stopped telling me details about things, I became cold… punishing… withholding… bitchy. I even threatened divorce. 

So we tried therapy.

And talking about our relationship issues and rehashing old fights didn’t work for us.

Not only did we waste a ton of time and money on both male and female therapists, we’d often leave our sessions worse off then when we arrived. 

Then something totally unexpected happened.

I began my formal training to become a Certified Life and Relationship Coach, and this thing I learned in one of my very first courses absolutely blew my freaking mind.

It changed me forever, actually. 

This enlightening course was all about our “Six Universal Human Needs” and there began the process of me developing a deeper understanding of why I do what I do … and why others in my life very important to me do what they do… that upleveled my way of thinking. I was able to make so much more sense of my Self and others, empowering me with a way better mindset.

It was the exact self-awareness slap in the face I needed to wake up and recognize my own power and ability to create change. 

Now I help others save their marriages.

And I get a lot of individuals and couples who come to me after having tried therapy, wanting to try the coaching approach. 

Want to discover how personal coaching can help you transform your own relationship? If the answer is YES, I invite you to apply for a FREE 30-minute Certified Coaching Call with me here: 

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